I married a sweet, innocent girl 39 years ago and she married depression. She has stood by me these many, many years. She’s been my comfort and the rock I've clung to for almost as long as I can remember. I would gladly lay down my life for her
She has never read my blog so she will never see this. I have a few friends out there and I want them to know how I feel about my life partner. She’s the reason I want to live. I love her
I'LL GO TO MY GRAVE LOVING YOU
(written by Don Reid)
The Statler Brothers - 1975
I'll go to my grave
Loving you
I'd give all I've saved
Loving you
And when I live again
Even then, it won't end
For I'll go to my grave
Loving you
Oh to stay this way forever
There's nothing I wouldn't give
I'll prove to you daily what a man really is
I'll lay down my life
Loving you
I'd work day & night
Loving you
And when God calls us both above
Honey you'll know that you've been loved
For I'll go to my grave
Loving you
I love you Sherry
Hi Darrel
ReplyDeleteWow my friend that is so beautiful ,
thankyou so much for sharing this ,
to find someone to live with for such a long time is getting rarer in todays world, people seem to give up at the first sign of trouble but it is the tough times that bring us closer and closer as my Wife Mel says at the end of the day we have each another
I am happy to know the love that shines out from your heart and i am sure your wife feels it and is one of many reasons she loves and has stayed and grown with you through these years
I am happy that we have met through the wonder of the net and our love to both you and your wife
andy xx mel xx
Sherry taught me that love is a verb. Love is something you DO, not just feel, cause sometimes the feelings aren't there. When the feelings are gone you love thru an act of will. I'm really blessed to have her.
ReplyDeleteDarrel this post is very beautiful, this is authentic love from a loving husband like you.
ReplyDeleteMy best wishes to you are: Go for the next 39 years and you will see more miracles.
Joel
Joel
ReplyDeleteI would like to take credit for the relationship that Sherry and I have but, you see, its all hers. One of the symptoms of my depression was rage and that's hard for a woman to take.
Sherry not only took the rage but, by the grace of God, became stronger. She is today, a strong courageous woman that loves me in spite of myself.
Darrel
Wow ... 39 years! Congratulations to the both of you!! Your tribute to her is beautiful ... a true testament to enduring love! Your wife sounds very special!
ReplyDeleteWhen we find that special someone who loves us no matter what ... it's such a gift ... a warm place to be. I'm glad you found each other!!
Thank you for sharing your special day with us!
Small Footprints
http://reducefootprints.blogspot.com
Small
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for stopping by.....I'm honored. You said 'a warm place'.....when I need a 'warm place' I turn to Sherry. She has accepted me for what I am and for what I am not.
It's refreshing as a young adult to see a relationship stand the test of time. At the risk of sounding like a hopeless romantic, "it reminds me that true love is attainable".Your wife should feel so honored! {And so should you! haha}
ReplyDeleteTo answer your question about the followers link,I just went to the dashboard, went to layout, and under the "add a gadget" I found the gadget for "followers". There ya go!
lovelyfesoul
ReplyDeleteNo, It really is I who am and should be grateful for the strength and courage of my spouse. She is the one who has held this marriage together. She stayed with me thru the height of my depression. She stayed when it would have been so much easier to go.
Thank you for your kind remarks
I tried what you said and I think I got it to work
Thanks!!!!!
darrel
Not only is this a beautiful post, but you are beautifully honest. Although you may not see it, you have a bright light within and I am very sure your wife has always seen that, unconditionally, as your love is for her~
ReplyDeleteThis post is touching and beautiful.
ReplyDeleteThank you for visiting my blog too!
I enjoy reading your blog so I've linked you up!
May you and your wife share everlasting love and happiness together!
Loved reading this. I wanted you to know that I am following your posts. I have been a depressive for 25 years and recently had another major crash. As a result I have been writing my blog for therapy. I have tried to describe depression, my emotions, experiences and thoughts. At the moment I am still struggling.
ReplyDeleteAll the best to you. Andrew
http://www.strayblackdog.co.uk
Gypsy
ReplyDeleteYou said something that stunned me....... the other day we were snuggling on the couch when she looked up and said
'You love me a lot more than you think you do. I quick;y came back with a sharp, well thought-out retort
"Huh??"
"You do and I know it"
Well shoot myself in the foot and call me stupid but I sure didn't know. So I just kept my mouth SHUT. She just snuggled closer.
darrel
So, beautiful. Thank you for reminding me how much my girl means to me.
ReplyDeleteastrogalaxy
ReplyDeleteMaybe the reason she loves me so much is that she knows I'll not be long on this mortal coil....NAH...she loves me for who I am.........and for who I am not
Leon
ReplyDeleteHave you ever thought about the fact that a man (a real man) can cry in front of a woman but never in front of another man. Women are soft and warm and nurturing.
That's exactly what I meant. We don't always see in ourselves what others see. I suffered from depression on and off since I was 13 and I would hear people tell me things that I just couldn't see. I do now. With hard work, therapy and sometimes medicine I have learned to quiet the mind chatter long enough to begin hearing my own voice. That *good*, genuine, soul voice and over time the light began to shine through. First a little and now very brightly. I still have some days that I am a little *off* but I am self-aware enough to take care of that.
ReplyDeleteYou ARE a beautiful light that has been with you the whole time~
Gypsy
ReplyDelete"First a little and now very brightly"
You said it right on. Your internal perception is not often found in depression. It took Lithium to finally pull me out.
Joel Rivera and I are trying to start a webring for depression.........that way we wouldn't have to look far for support. If you know someone that can set up a webring would you let me know?
thanks for your comments...I'm grateful for them
darrel
Awe that is the sweetest thing I have read all day! She is a very lucky woman.
ReplyDeleteJustsouknow
ReplyDeleteI'm the lucky one. BELIEVE ME!!!!!